Head, Shoulders, Cheeks and Nose

So, in which places do cats like to be petted? The head, chin and neck are often their favourites. While some cats enjoy having their tails touched, others will recoil and even experience pain from a tail stroke. Take it slowly, paying close attention to your cat's reactions to your touch and always respecting their preferences.

When approaching your cat, the most important thing is to allow them to take the lead. Let your cat sniff your index finger and touch their nose against it first. If they want to cuddle, they'll push their face against your hand and direct you to their ears, chin or wherever they want to be petted. Going slowly will create a more relaxed environment. If they start nudging you with their head or rubbing their cheeks against your body, it's a good sign. "Bunting" behaviour is how cats transfer their scent, via their cheek glands, to beloved surroundings and family members.

In addition to being petted, do cats like to be held? Sometimes. Most cats love to snuggle, and they're typically responsive to being held if you introduce them to it gradually. The best way to approach your cat for a hug is to start with a few soft pets, then carefully pick them up. Be sure to secure all four of their legs so that they don't dangle. If they feel safe in your arms, they'll be more inclined to stay there. If they squirm and want to get away, set them down gently and try again later. Learning to snuggle takes baby steps (and occasionally a tasty reward for not mauling your arms on the way down!).

Does Breed Matter? What About Age?

Some cat breeds are more receptive to pets and hugs than others. The Siamese, for example, is a playful and fun-loving breed that will demand attention from you, as will the affectionate Ragdoll.

Don't be alarmed if your cat resists physical attention. It may just be part of their personality or upbringing. If a kitten isn't socialised with humans at an early age, they may be reluctant to accept affection. They may also need more coaxing if you adopt them as an adult and don't know their backstory. You can acclimate your cat using some of the strategies above, but some cats simply don't enjoy being picked up, preferring to be by your side instead of in your lap.

Building trust is a gradual process in any relationship. When you invest your love and affection, you'll be rewarded with a feline best friend (and maybe even the opportunity to give a belly rub).